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Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: Maryland, USA
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I should probably let sleeping dogs lie on this subject, but I feel like I should say something.
While no one explicitly accused Karla of lying, I think there was a tone to the responses to her original post that Wendy was ok which I would have found insulting if directed to me. Sometimes written communication does not convey messages as well as in-person-face-to-face communication where you can see the person's facial expressions and other non-verbal cues. But i can see how she was insulted by the comments. Maybe they were not intended to be hurtful, but I can see why she felt insulted and hurt by them. I try to give the benefit of the doubt when reading posts/comments b/c things do get lost in the "translation" at times. I will throw out there that unless someone has seen Wendy in person, we really don't know for sure who the "woman behind the curtain" is at this point. Wendy must have her reasons for staying silent and I think we have to respect that. I wasn't personal friends with her, so maybe that is why I can say that. I hope VF continues to chug along, after hearing about the nightmare of the last upgrade, I can see why Wendy (or whomever is behind the curtain) doesn't want to risk doing another upgrade, so thank you, KarenJo for that background. Peace everyone - let us try to enjoy VF for however long it lasts....hopefully another 20+ years! ![]() Donna |
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Arizona
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My turn to go out on a limb lol. Donna, I agree. The posts to Karla sounded critical to me also. I can understand why Karla was upset. Oth, I felt her response was overly aggressive in return. I can see why each side was upset. My concern is that whichever forum I go to, I want there to be a way to handle disputes so that the forum isn’t harmed by the drama. I can see why Wendy locked threads and deleted posts.
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Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: Spicer, MN
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I, for one, just hope Wendy is ok. And two, ignore negative people who post misinformation. The end.
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Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: Spicer, MN
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Bye!! From what I read, you bring it on yourself. Bye.
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Join Date: Oct 2006
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donnamp and Leonana, both of your responses were rational and respectfully presented, so thanks to both of you.
I don’t think that the comments in response to the initial “she’s alive” post warranted the level of vitriolic personal attacks that resulted. Frankly I was stunned when I read them and thought, “oh, there must be some other posts that were removed" since I saw nothing in them that either explicitly said or implied that Karla was lying, by the kind and sweet FOLV or anyone else. I can somewhat see that the responses to the “reveal” may have been misinterpreted (not as lying, however—more like a cliffhanger with the lack of any detail), but there is a reasonable way to communicate rather than with an explosion. People are very curious given the forum uncertainty and perhaps a little bit more information could have been shared in the initial post—i.e. Wendy contacted me via email about a forum issue and signed her name—could have prevented what has followed. I wouldn’t expect the entire contents of a message from Wendy to be shared with the group, but just if the gist of it was forum business related rather than “I’m alive, please let people know,” signed by Wendy. Leonana, if only people could ask questions—as simple as “what do you mean” before responding, it could perhaps avoid drama. It’s sad, since it deflects attention away from the topic at hand, which is IMHO the uncertain future of VF. I don’t know how alternate forums are addressing the issue of conflict resolution but it may not be an issue yet since I don’t think there’s much traffic yet. It’s an important issue as disputes are definitely going to happen.
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Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Central Valley, California
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Karla, a point that has been made more than once over multiple threads is that it is someone logging in on WWWendy's credentials. We all hope that it is Wendy and that it's a sign she's doing well, but there is no way to tell if the log ins or messages are from her or someone else who has the password. It could be another moderator who she turned over the password to long ago and who is reluctant to say so. Could be lots of things. No way to know. And Wendy hasn't replied to email sent to her personal address. Many of us do feel an attachment to Wendy and wish her well, which was why your original post was so eagerly jumped on and people were hungry for more information, so asked for details. Personally, though it's been years since I exchanged emails and messages with Wendy, I've "known" her for almost 25 years now through using this forum and she's a significant person in my life.
Wendy, I do hope you are out there and that your life is currently going well.
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I guess we will disagree on this issue. When you say you can’t trust someone’s word without “fact-checking” that is in essence calling them a liar. Maybe I misconstrued her intent. I will try to give her the benefit of doubt. BTW, I never said “Wendy was fine.” I said “Wendy was alive” This could have been fact-checked by anyone looking to see when Wendy last visited the forum which as of today was January 2nd. FOLV could have sent a private message to me asking for clarification. I don’t always read threads, but am notified when I have a message. It appeared to me that she and dabadoody were enjoying their public mockery at my expense. Absolutely no one in this forum was entitled to know what the message was or how it was sent. They only have the right to believe or disbelieve as they choose. Does FOLV really think people can’t infer if something is true? Do they really need her fact-checking me? Most of the people here are probably over 50 years old. How did they manage to survive all these years? Does she also think that they are unable to send me a private message if they have doubts? I see people as adults that can make their own decisions based on their perceptions of truth.
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