05-05-24, 03:17 PM | |
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Gams, you've gotten some great advice.
I think that sometimes the host/hostess of meal events need some etiquette advice. I have gone to more food-related events recently and I am kind of surprised at the comments I get. Folks feel perfectly free to comment on what I'm eating, how much I'm eating, what I'm not eating and how come? {rolleyes} It's especially bad if it's somebody's "special dish" that "everybody loves" and I don't want any. Yeah yeah I could have a spoonful but it's just so annoying that people get on my back about it. Nobody should have to explain in detail their dietary likes and dislikes. A quick mention should suffice if pressed. I consider it bad manners to badger somebody to eat something they don't want to. Whoopsie, LOL, this turned into a rant!
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05-05-24, 04:17 PM | |
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Yep - I’ve had people actually say to me, “It’s not going to kill you to try some.” I know it’s not going to kill me, but my parents could get away with telling me that when I was 7, but now that I’m in my 60’s I figure I’m old enough to decide for myself. I just don’t eat meat anymore and if I tell people that, I get rude comments about being one of “those” people. Even before I stopped eating meat, though, I hated steak.
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05-05-24, 04:17 PM | |
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VVFer, I so agree! It’s the same people who say “oh, you are so thin, you could eat a piece of cake/pie/doughnut" or whatever it is. MYOB, people!
Gams, you have gotten some good advice. Maybe there are other people going since somehow you found out what they are serving or did the host tell you? I actually like your thought that you say “I don’t eat meat (or whatever the food is they are cooking”) but I would love to come and enjoy everyone’s company.” Or maybe ask if you should bring a dish—not asking because you don’t think their food is “good enough” but to contribute to the party? I think that some people will be offended by whatever you do. That’s out of your control, unfortunately.
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05-05-24, 04:41 PM | |
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My daughter and I are gluten free for health reasons, and on top of that my husband has a very serious diagnosis and is on a keto diet. My daughter in law has celiac disease.
I think with all the dietary restrictions, allergies, etc you certainly could ask if you could bring something, etc. It depends on the type of party, etc. And sorry, but if my daughter in law eats gluten it is really life threatening. My husband is not going to eat any cake, cookies, dessert, sugar, anything carby. He IS fighting for his life. I doubt he will ever drink a drop of alcohol again.
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05-05-24, 07:58 PM | |
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Join Date: Oct 2001
Location: Twin Cities, MN
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I read something somewhere not long ago that a person having a dinner party should ask if you have any dietary restrictions when they extend the invitation to you. Of course, who actually does that? I would eat before you go and just nibble while you're there.
I did that just last week at an "appetizers and cocktails" get-together over dinner hour (which I thought was strange). I ate enough beforehand to not be hungry enough to chow down on what I assumed would be a lot of snacky, junky food. Wrong! They changed their minds and served beef tenderloin and salad instead. Yup. Thanks for the heads up on that. :-( Oh! And the hostess drank water and ate a few crackers during dinner (which I found very bizarre), so no need for me to worry about etiquette when just eating lettuce. |
05-06-24, 02:22 PM | |
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Location: Florida
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Another option would be to cancel and invite them to lunch at a restaurant as your treat. While at the restaurant, you might slip into the conversation about your being a vegetarian so if they invite you over for future dinners they’ll know about your dietary preferences.
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